30 Days by the Sea

Content Warning: This post contains discussion of childhood exposure to parental alcoholism and domestic violence. While absent of graphic detail, the material addresses trauma, fear, and hypervigilance that some readers may find distressing.

Translation note. Spanish-language text in this post was translated into English using Google Translate and reviewed by the author. Translations are intended to convey general meaning rather than certified linguistic precision.

Van der Kolk (2014) writes that the body continues to register and respond to danger signals even when conscious memory holds no record of the original trauma.

But what about when the body remembers everything? When the danger was less a single event than the air you breathed for years?

The Constant Companion

What the Walls Remember

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I am trying to describe a sensation that lived in my body from my earliest memories until approximately age twelve. It sat in my stomach, this tight ball of readiness. Almost nausea, though sometimes it tipped that way. Almost pain, though it ached.

It was the feeling of waiting. Esperando. Always waiting.

Waiting for the sound that would tell me whether this evening would be safe.

The sound was the truck engine. My father’s truck is pulling in at the end of the day. And before I even consciously registered the sound, my body knew. The particular rhythm of his footsteps as he walked from the garage into the house told me everything I needed to know. Heavy, deliberate steps meant danger. Lighter, quicker steps might mean safety, though there were no guarantees.

The ball in my stomach would tighten. My breathing would change without my choosing to. I was listening with my whole body, my whole being rather than just my ears.

Here is what I have learned from the trauma neuroscience I read in Part 1: this lay beyond clinical anxiety. This was neuroception. My autonomic nervous system is reading environmental cues for danger beneath my conscious awareness, exactly as it was designed to do. The problem was that it was designed for occasional threats, never the chronic kind, never for years of this.

By the time I heard the garage door, I had already assessed multiple variables without thinking about it. What day of the week was it? Fridays were more dangerous because he stopped at the bar on the way home. How late was he? Later meant more drinking. Did my mother seem tense at dinner? Her tension meant she had already sensed something I had yet to detect. Was my younger sister being too loud? Noise drew attention, and attention was dangerous.

The youngest was seven years younger than me, still small enough that sometimes she cried in ways I was unable to quiet. This terrified me more than my own danger. My hypervigilance extended far beyond myself. I was responsible for them, too.

Reading the Air

Atmosphere Before the Storm

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I developed what I can only describe as a hyperawareness of atmospheres. I could feel the charge in the air before anything visible changed. My mother’s shoulders would tighten in a particular way. The house itself seemed to hold its breath.

By age eight or nine, I had become fluent in the language of approaching violence. I could read micro-expressions. I could detect shifts in vocal tone that signalled danger was escalating. I could calculate the precise degree of door-closing force that indicated anger.

These were skills no child should need to develop. But I was brilliant at them. I had to be.

The worst moments came before violence actually occurred. The worst moments were the hours of waiting, the ball in my stomach wound so tight I thought it might tear something open. During these hours, every small sound required assessment. Was that his chair scraping against the floor? His glass was set down hard on the counter. Is the refrigerator door closing with force?

Each sound was data. Each piece of data helped me calculate the probability of eruption.

During these hours of waiting, I strategised. Where were my sisters? If something happened, could I get to them? Were there obstacles between me and their rooms? I mapped the house in my mind like a battlefield, planning routes and refuges.

What Survived

The Geography of Hiding

The house had its own geography of fear. Certain rooms were more dangerous than others.

The kitchen, where he drank after work, where the counter held the evidence of how many bottles had been opened. I learned to count them without appearing to count them. One bottle was manageable. Two meant higher risk. Three or more meant I needed to get my sisters to their rooms and keep them there.

The living room, where he sat in his chair and called us to him. Sometimes these summons were benign. Sometimes they were otherwise. I learned to read the kind from the quality of his voice when he said my name.

The hallway between my room and my baby sisters’ rooms felt impossibly long and exposed. I had to cross it to reach them if they needed me, and crossing it meant being visible, being available to be called, being vulnerable.

I learned to move through the house silently. I learned which floorboards creaked. Which doors squeaked? How to open cabinets without sound. I learned to exist without creating disturbance, to breathe so shallowly that even my breath would remain undetectable.

This skill, this ability to minimise my presence, to make myself unnoticeable, would follow me for decades. Would manifest in adult relationships as difficulty taking up space. As apologising for existing. As constantly making myself smaller to accommodate others’ needs.

But in childhood, this skill kept me safer than I would otherwise have been. Which is far from safe. There was no safety. There were only degrees of threat, gradations of danger that I learned to navigate with the precision of a cartographer mapping treacherous terrain.

The Sound of My Name

Voice Like a Weapon

Sometimes my father called my name.

Even now, five decades later, sitting in Loreto with the sound of the sea outside my window, I can feel my body’s response to that memory. My heart accelerates slightly. My vision narrows at the edges. The ball in my stomach clenches.

This is what van der Kolk (2014) means when he writes about how the body keeps the score. The original threat is gone. My father is long dead. But my nervous system still responds as if the danger were present.

In childhood, the sound of my name in his voice when he had been drinking produced a physical response I had no control over. My heart would accelerate. My vision would narrow. The ball in my stomach would clench. I would freeze, completely still, as if holding utterly still might make me invisible.

But I had to answer. Silence was worse. I would force my legs to move, force my voice to work, force my face into neutrality. The walk down the hallway to wherever he was calling from felt like walking to execution. Caminar hacia el miedo. Walking toward fear.

“Did you do this?”

His voice, accusing.

I remained without understanding of what “this” was. A glass was left on the counter. A door left ajar. A light was left on. The television is too loud. The offence varied and often made no logical sense. But the pattern was always the same: I was accused of something I had left undone, something I would never do because I was so careful, so hypervigilant about never creating any reason for attention, for anger, for danger.

“No,” I would say, my voice small.

This was true. I had done nothing of what he was accusing me of doing. But truth had no protective power.

When Reality Breaks

I wrote in Part 1 about Freyd’s (2008) concept of betrayal trauma, how, when those who should protect us instead harm us, when we are blamed for harm done to us, the violation cuts deeper than the harm itself because it undermines our basic capacity to trust our own perceptions.

This is what those moments of false accusation did. They broke something deeper than the fear of punishment.

The moment would stretch. He would decide whether to believe me. Sometimes he did. Sometimes he refused. When he refused to believe me, when he insisted I was lying even though I was telling the truth, something fractured inside me each time.

I knew with certainty that I had done nothing he accused me of. I knew it with absolute certainty. But his version of reality had power over mine. His insistence that I was guilty could override my knowledge of my own innocence.

This is epistemic violence. The assault on a child’s capacity to know what they know.

I am still, decades later, unlearning this. Still working to trust my own perceptions. Still catching myself doubting what I know to be true when someone else insists on a different version of events.

The Leaving

Underwater Silence

During these moments of accusation, of being blamed for things left undone, I would split. Some part of me would go away to a place where his words could find no purchase.

My face would remain neutral. My body would stand still. But I had barely remained there.

Years later, I learned this is called dissociation. A survival strategy my nervous system deployed to protect me from unbearable psychological pain. Fisher (2017) writes about structural dissociation, the fragmentation of the personality into parts that carry different survival strategies. In the moment, I only knew that crying was forbidden, that defending myself too vigorously was forbidden, that showing fear was forbidden.

Any emotional response increases danger.

Where did I go when I left? The answer remains beyond me. It was less a conscious choice than an automatic response, my body’s wisdom protecting me in the only way available when fight or flight were both impossible.

I existed in some internal space that felt grey and distant, muffled, as if I were underwater, with the sounds reaching me from far away. This internal refuge kept me functioning, but at a cost. I lost pieces of my experience. Unable to fully remember what happened during these dissociated moments. Carried gaps in my memory that would later make me doubt whether events occurred as I recalled them.

This fragmentation, this sense that parts of me exist in different places, holding different pieces of the experience, has never entirely healed. I recognise it even now when stress triggers those same dissociative responses. The going away. The watching myself from a distance. The sense that I am barely inhabiting my body.

The Weight of Protection

I tried to absorb her fear into my own body,
to create a buffer between her and the violence.
Even now, some part of me keeps scanning for their safety.

Still Holding

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After these confrontations, after he had yelled or grabbed or made his point through whatever means he chose, I would go to check on my sisters.

My younger sister, only one year younger than me, had often heard everything through the walls. I would find her frozen in her bed, eyes wide, her own body locked in the same sympathetic activation that gripped mine.

“It is okay,” I would tell her, though we both understood it was far from true.

“He is calmer now.” Ya pasó. It has passed.

Though we both knew it had barely passed. That it would come again. That this was merely an intermission.

I would smooth her hair the way our mother did, or used to do before exhaustion made all gestures mechanical. I tried to absorb her fear into my own body, tried to create a buffer between her and the violence, tried to convince both of us that I could keep her safe when in reality I was just another child, just as powerless, just as frightened.

The youngest, still small, often slept through these episodes. When she woke, confused by the atmosphere, by the tension that lingered in the house like smoke, I would make up reasons. “Dad was just talking loudly about work.” Anything to preserve her innocence a little longer, though I suspected she absorbed the fear even when she lacked conscious understanding of its source.

Babies know. Children know. Bodies know what minds try to deny.

I wrote in Part 1 about Jurkovic’s (1997) work on parentification, the way children who become caregivers for their siblings carry consequences into adulthood. Difficulty accepting care. Persistent sense of responsibility for others’ emotional states. Compromised capacity to recognise their own needs.

Most relevant for this alonetude project: the way parentified children struggle with solitude because rest feels like a dereliction of duty. Their nervous systems learned early that constant vigilance is required as much for protection of others as for the self for the protection of others.

Even here in Loreto, alone by choice, with my sisters safe in their own adult lives, some part of me keeps scanning for their safety. Keeps wondering if I should check in. The hypervigilance that served us then persists decades after we no longer need it.

The Vigil

The Edge of Rest

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I would lie awake long after the house had gone silent. My body refused sleep because sleep meant vulnerability, meant I might miss the return of danger.

The hypervigilance that kept me alert all day persisted through the night rather than releasing. Instead, it intensified in the dark. Every small sound required assessment. The house is settling. The refrigerator is cycling on. A mine whistle is blowing at the end of the shift.

Each sound had to be categorised as normal or threatening. Safe or dangerous? Requiring response or allowing rest.

But rest never truly came.

Tomorrow I would move through school in a fog of exhaustion, but I had become skilled at hiding this, too. Appearing normal. At performing the role of a child who was fine when everything inside me was wound tight as a wire.

Teachers remained unseeing, or if they noticed, they remained silent. This was the early 1970s. People avoided speaking of such things. Families were private. What happened in homes stayed in homes.

I learned to carry my fear silently, to show no external evidence of the constant internal vigilance.

The Normalization of Terror

This is every memory combined. This is hundreds of memories, thousands of moments of fear spread across seven years. This is the texture of my childhood, the baseline state against which any moments of safety appeared as aberrations.

The ball in my stomach became so constant that I forgot there had ever been a time when I had ever been free of it. It became my normal, the lens through which I perceived the entire world: dangerous, unpredictable, requiring constant vigilance.

Even in moments that should have been safe, at school, during rare family outings when my father was sober, visiting friends’ houses, the fear persisted. My nervous system resisted recalibration even when external circumstances temporarily improved.

Porges (2011) writes about how the nervous system, once calibrated to constant threat, cannot easily recalibrate to safety. Safety feels temporary. Fragile. A gift that can be revoked at any moment.

This is what I carry still. This sense that safety is a state beyond my trusting but rather a temporary condition that requires its own kind of vigilance. That letting my guard down means disaster. That rest is dangerous.

What the Body Remembers

What the Body Keeps

Vigilance Without Threat

What lay beyond my understanding then but is clear to me now through trauma neuroscience is that my body was accurately responding to chronic threat by remaining in a state of mobilised defence. The hypervigilance was entirely rational. It was a rational response to genuine danger.

The problem emerges later, when the danger has ended, but the defensive mobilization persists. When my adult nervous system continues responding as if I am still that child in that house, still needing to constantly monitor for threats that no longer exist.

The ball in my stomach. The scanning for danger. The inability to rest. The sense that solitude is dangerous rather than restorative.

These are accurate indicators, rather than failures of healing. They are accurate indicators of how deeply fear became inscribed in my body during formative years.

This is why I am here in Loreto. Why I am attempting to give my nervous system sustained exposure to genuine safety. Why I am practicing, every day, the radical act of rest.

But the body resists unlearning what it learned during the years when the personality itself was forming. The vigilance persists. The ball in my stomach still activates under stress. The sound of heavy footsteps still makes my shoulders rise.

And yet.

There are moments here, in the early morning light, when the pelicans glide past my window, when the ball in my stomach unclenches slightly. When my breath deepens a fraction. When rest feels possible, even if only for a moment.

These are the victories I am learning to recognise. Beyond the dramatic transformation I once hoped for, but the small, incremental shifts. The brief moments when my nervous system registers safety. When the vigilance softens. When I can simply be.

Even the body needs a point of reunion

What Comes Next

In Part 3, I will examine what these childhood adaptations mean for adult life. How hypervigilance shapes capacity for solitude. Why my thirty-day retreat in Loreto represents an attempt to finally teach my nervous system that rest is permitted. How alonetude offers refuge rather than threat.

The vignette has shown the wound. The analysis will show the path toward healing.

When I can simply be.

References

Fisher, J. (2017). Healing the fragmented selves of trauma survivors: Overcoming internal self-alienation. Routledge.

Freyd, J. J. (2008). Betrayal trauma. In G. Reyes, J. D. Elhai, & J. D. Ford (Eds.), The encyclopedia of psychological trauma (pp. 76–77). John Wiley & Sons.

Jurkovic, G. J. (1997). Lost childhoods: The plight of the parentified child. Routledge.

Porges, S. W. (2011). The polyvagal theory: Neurophysiological foundations of emotions, attachment, communication, and self-regulation. W. W. Norton & Company.

van der Kolk, B. A. (2014). The body keeps the score: Brain, mind, and body in the healing of trauma. Viking.

Content Warning: This series contains discussion of childhood exposure to parental alcoholism and domestic violence. While the material is free from graphic detail, it addresses trauma, fear, and hypervigilance that some readers may find distressing.

This is Part 1 of a 3-part series exploring childhood hypervigilance and the journey toward healing through solitude. This series draws from my Creative Master’s thesis on alonetude: intentional, embodied solitude as healing practice.

“This is a memory of a way of being, rather than a memory of something that happened.”

I am trying to write about fear. Beyond the kind that arrives and then leaves, beyond the sharp spike of adrenaline when something startles you, but the other kind. The kind that becomes the water you swim in. The kind that becomes so constant you forget you are afraid at all.

Van der Kolk (2014) writes about trauma as an enduring imprint on mind, brain, and body, something that continues shaping how we navigate the present long after the original event has passed (p. 21). But what happens when there is no single event to point to? What happens when the entire landscape of childhood is the event?

When Fear Has No Beginning

Image: Early Atmosphere

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There are childhood memories I can pull out like photographs, discrete and framed. The time I fell off my bike. My eighth birthday party. The day we got our dog.

And then there are the other memories. The ones that exist as atmospheres rather than moments. As textures. As the constant hum underneath everything else.

From approximately age three to twelve, I lived inside a particular sensation. It sat in my stomach, a tight ball of readiness. This is a memory of a way of being, rather than any single event that happened. A state I inhabited the way other children might have inhabited safety or joy or the simple pleasure of coming home from school.

My father’s alcoholism and violence made our home a place where I learned to calibrate my entire nervous system to threat. Where I learned to read micro-expressions the way other children learned to read books. Where I learned to map escape routes through rooms, the way other children might have mapped their way to the playground.

I am writing this now from Loreto, Mexico, thirty days by myself in a casita by the sea, trying to understand why solitude feels so dangerous. Why rest feels like a dereliction of duty. Why does my body still, five decades later, refuse to believe that it is safe?

Psychiatrist Judith Herman observes that children living in chronically threatening environments organise their entire existence around preventing further harm, shaping every aspect of their development and behaviour (1992).

The Neuroscience I Needed to Understand

I came to the trauma literature looking for a map. Looking for some way to make sense of why, at fifty-something years old, my shoulders still rise toward my ears when I hear heavy footsteps. Why does my breath still catch at the sound of a door closing with force? Why does being alone with my own thoughts feel more dangerous than being in a crowd?

What I found changed how I understand my childhood, and the body I still carry through the world.

The threat is the baseline. Safety, when it occurs, feels like an aberration.

When Trauma Shapes the Personality Itself

Herman (1992) introduced the concept of complex post-traumatic stress disorder to name what happens when trauma extends beyond any single terrible event into a chronic condition of childhood. She makes a distinction that stopped me cold when I first read it: repeated trauma in adult life erodes the structure of an already-formed personality. But repeated trauma in childhood? That shapes and deforms the personality as it develops.

I had to sit with that for a long time.

Single-incident trauma, devastating as it is, happens against a backdrop of what came before. The person remembers what safe felt like. The nervous system has a baseline to which it can potentially return.

But for those of us who grew up in homes where violence was the organising principle of daily life? We have no safe baseline. The threat is the baseline. Safety, when it occurs, feels like an aberration.

This matters for understanding why solitude feels dangerous to me now. My nervous system was calibrated during its most formative years to expect threat. It learned early that vigilance is required for survival. And when that learning happens during the years when the personality itself is forming, it goes deeper than sitting on top of the self. It becomes the foundation of the self.

How Your Nervous System Learns the World

A neuroscientist I am far from, but I have spent years trying to understand what Stephen Porges (2011) calls Polyvagal Theory because it finally gave me language for what I carry in my body.

Image: The Neuroscience I Needed

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Porges describes three systems in the autonomic nervous system, organised hierarchically:

The ventral vagal system supports what he calls social engagement. It is the system that allows you to feel safe, to connect with others, to rest. When this system is online, your face is mobile, your voice has prosody, and you can take in information without constant threat assessment.

The sympathetic nervous system mobilises the fight-or-flight response. This is the system that floods you with adrenaline, that makes your heart race, that prepares your body to defend itself or run.

The dorsal vagal system produces freeze, collapse, and shutdown. This is the oldest system, the one that takes over when fight or flight are both impossible. When you cannot escape and cannot defeat the threat, this system makes you disappear inside yourself.

In safe environments, Porges (2011) explains, the nervous system moves flexibly between these states as situations require. You can engage socially when appropriate, mobilise when needed, and return to calm.

But in chronically threatening environments, the system becomes biased toward defensive states. The part of you that should be able to rest and connect gets chronically inhibited. Your body learns that the world requires constant defence.

For children in violent homes, this means the nervous system rarely experiences the kind of regulation that comes from safe, attuned relationships. Van der Kolk (2014) writes about how traumatised individuals carry fundamentally different bodily experiences than those who have felt safe and welcome in the world.

I think about this often here in Loreto. About how my body learned early that the world held no safety. About how that learning lives in my nervous system, deeper than thought. About how no amount of cognitive understanding that I am safe now can simply overwrite what my body knows.

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When Survival Requires Fragmentation

Janina Fisher (2017) writes about something she calls structural dissociation. The way chronic threat fragments the personality into parts that carry different survival strategies.

Image: Structural Dissociation

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Survival Intelligence

Children develop what she describes as trauma-related action systems: fight, flight, freeze, submit, attach, and cry for help. Each is associated with specific bodily states. Each is a different way of trying to survive.

Image: Intelligent Adaptations

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I recognise all of these in myself. The part that freezes when someone raises their voice. The part that apologises compulsively for taking up space. The part that scans every room for exits. The part that overexplains, trying to prevent misunderstandings before they happen.

These are adaptations, beyond pathologies. They are intelligent adaptations. They kept me alive.

The problem is that they persist decades after the threat has ended.

Hypervigilance as Intelligent Adaptation

Hypervigilance as Adaptation

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Van der Kolk (2014) characterises hypervigilance as the persistent expectation of danger that keeps the body in a state of high alert. Courtois (2008) calls it anticipatory anxiety, the constant scanning of environments, the monitoring of adult moods, the perpetual effort to predict and potentially avoid danger.

I need to say this clearly: hypervigilance is clarity under threat. Beyond pathology. Beyond dysfunction. Beyond weakness.

The child who learns to read micro-expressions, to detect shifts in vocal tone, to map escape routes through the house, that child is surviving. Far from malfunctioning.

I was brilliant at survival. By age eight, I could assess a room in seconds. Could tell you from the sound of footsteps whether this evening would be safe. Could make myself small enough, quiet enough, invisible enough to avoid attention.

Image: Survival Intelligence

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This intelligence saved my life.

But intelligence calibrated to perpetual threat recalibrates to safety only slowly. My nervous system still signals danger in contexts where there is none. Still prepares for threats that no longer exist. Still cannot quite believe that rest is permitted.

When Those Who Should Protect You Betray Reality Itself

Freyd (2008) writes about betrayal trauma, what happens when those we depend upon for survival violate our trust (pp. 76–77). But she is writing about something deeper than mere trust violation. She is writing about the violation of reality itself.

I remember being accused of things I had never done. Small things, meaningless things, a glass left on the counter, a light left on. But the accusation came with absolute certainty. My father’s insistence that I was lying when I was telling the truth.

The terror was beyond punishment, though punishment was real. The terror was about the understanding that reality itself could be overwritten. That my knowing what was true offered no protection. That I could be blamed at will, simply because someone with power over me decided I was guilty.

Image: When Reality Fractures

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For children, this creates what Freyd (2008) calls a double bind. The child knows the truth. But the parents’ power requires submission to the false narrative. And that submission? It ruptures something fundamental about the child’s sense of reality and worth.

When parents harm and also deny the child’s reality, they commit what might be understood as epistemic violence. An assault on the child’s capacity to know what they know.

I am still, decades later, unlearning the habit of doubting my own perceptions. Still working to trust my judgment. Still catching myself deferring to others’ interpretations of events, even when I have clear evidence of their inaccuracy.

“The threat is the baseline. Safety, when it occurs, feels like an aberration.”

When Children Have to Become Parents

Minuchin (1974) described parentification as a developmental distortion in which children assume caretaking roles beyond their capacity. Jurkovic (1997) distinguishes between adaptive parentification (helping with household tasks during a temporary crisis) and destructive parentification (providing ongoing emotional regulation to family members in chronically dysfunctional systems).

I was the oldest. Seven years older than my youngest sister. I learned early that my vigilance needed to extend beyond my own safety. I needed to monitor whether I was in danger, and whether they were. I needed to comfort, to protect, to absorb their fear into my own already-overloaded nervous system.

Image: Carrying More Than One Nervous System

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Jurkovic (1997) writes about the consequences: difficulty accepting care from others in adulthood, a persistent sense of responsibility for others’ emotional states, and a compromised capacity to recognise one’s own needs, as well as what he calls premature identity closure, when children define themselves primarily through their caretaking role rather than developing authentic selfhood.

And this: parentified children often struggle with solitude because their nervous systems learned early that constant vigilance extends beyond self-protection to the protection of others.

“This is a memory of a way of being, rather than a memory of something that happened.”

Image: Staying With What Is

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Rest feels like a dereliction of duty. Solitude feels like abandonment of the post.

This is why I am here in Loreto. Why I am trying, for thirty days, to teach my nervous system that rest is permitted. That Vigilance for anyone else’s safety can rest here. That solitude can be restorative rather than dangerous.

But I am getting ahead of myself.

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References

Courtois, C. A. (2008). Complex trauma, complex reactions: Assessment and treatment. Psychological Trauma: Theory, Research, Practice, and Policy, S(1), 86–100. https://doi.org/10.1037/1942-9681.S.1.86

Fisher, J. (2017). Healing the fragmented selves of trauma survivors: Overcoming internal self-alienation. Routledge.

Freyd, J. J. (2008). Betrayal trauma. In G. Reyes, J. D. Elhai, & J. D. Ford (Eds.), The encyclopedia of psychological trauma (pp. 76–77). John Wiley & Sons.

Herman, J. L. (1992). Trauma and recovery: The aftermath of violence, From domestic abuse to political terror. Basic Books.

Jurkovic, G. J. (1997). Lost childhoods: The plight of the parentified child. Routledge.

Minuchin, S. (1974). Families and family therapy. Harvard University Press.

Porges, S. W. (2011). The polyvagal theory: Neurophysiological foundations of emotions, attachment, communication, and self-regulation. W. W. Norton & Company.

van der Kolk, B. A. (2014). The body keeps the score: Brain, mind, and body in the healing of trauma. Viking.

Here rests vigilance, laid down with care.